Emotional Affairs And What To Look Out ForAuthor: +Freddie Cook
If you are worried about your spouse and fear that you see some warning signs of an emotional affair then there are a few things that you can be on the lookout for. Just remember that it’s very easy to let your imagination run away with you. You have to be careful to not see things that aren’t really there.
Many of the tips I’m about to give you can be signs of an affair but they can also be innocent and may not mean a thing. Just don’t risk making things worse by assuming something that may not be the case. If something seems wrong don’t accuse your spouse, instead open a dialog with them and ask them about your concerns.
In some ways emotional affairs can be the most damaging. It may actually be a little easier to forgive a physical indiscretion since it often doesn’t mean much at an emotional level, but an emotional connection with another person is particularly upsetting and hard to get over.
Strangely, because there is nothing physically going on, it makes it a so much worse, the emotional connection seems so much stronger because of it.
How are you supposed to compete with that?
Here are a few possible indicators that something is going on:
- Your spouse suddenly starts working out or has a sudden interest in wearing new and nicer clothes. This, of course, might be totally innocent but if it seems like it is coming out of the blue than it may be a sign of trouble.
If your spouse seems to be spending a lot more time at work than normal. A lot of sudden overtime may be a sign that something is going on. Is it just an excuse to be near some other person they’ve become emotionally attached to?Keep your eyes open and don’t accuse, but it can’t hurt to talk.
If your spouse suddenly starts talking about a co-worker a lot, especially if there is a lot of admiration or affection in their tone, it may be a sign of an emotional affair.
Sometimes an emotional affair can just sneak up on someone and they are not really aware of it. Even if your spouse is starting to have feelings for someone, they may not realize just what is going on yet; all the more reason to not jump down their throats.
- If your spouse is suddenly very private about their phone conversations and computer habits, it is a strong indicator that they are doing something they don’t want you to know about. You need to find out what that “something” is (or who it is).
If this is happening then you can be sure they ARE fully aware of it.
It’s all too easy to slowly have an attraction grow between two people who spend a lot of time together and have a lot in common. That’s why work place affairs happen so often. But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, you had better be sure or you can really make a mess of your marriage.
Looking for warning signs of an emotional affair? If you are at that point it’s very likely that something has happened to make you suspicious. You know the saying “where there’s smoke there’s fire” so assuming that you aren’t just overly paranoid and jealous, by the time you start to get suspicious it’s likely that there is something happening.
But before you run off and accuse your spouse of something that you think they have done, try talking to them first. Once an accusation is made it is very difficult to take it back and, if you are wrong, it makes you looks very insecure.
So make sure your suspicions are real first, or you run the chance of making a mess of your marriage instead of recovering your relationship.
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