After ten years of marriage how could he cheat on me?
How could he take the chance of losing me… just for an affair?…
Or losing our relationship together after all this time, after all the dreams and plans we’ve made together for our future?…
What about our children and all the shared life, memories and knowledge of each other?…
What did they do together?…
What did they say together?…
Is it just a bad dream or did he really do this awful thing to US?…
… I know it’s hard to take, but yes… I’m afraid he did.
But even worse than all that… one of the biggest, and hardest, things to overcome after you discover the infidelity is how it makes YOU feel as a person.
Somehow, your self-esteem vanishes. You end up feeling, not just angry but, worthless and rejected.
Even though you have done nothing wrong…
Just knowing about the affair and all the lies and cheating that went along with it is enough to make you question yourself.
It’s your husband that has done all the wrong, it’s his adulterous behavior that’s made your past life together almost meaningless.
HE introduced this whole mess into your family.
So why is it YOU that feels so bad?
Why do YOU think so negatively about yourself?
In truth, your lack of confidence and respect for yourself is a very common experience for almost everyone who discovers their partner in life has been cheating on them.
It’s not fair… but, it’s what happens all the same.
And to make matters worse, your self-doubt is not the only negative thoughts you’re having to deal with.
The affair itself, the other person, the details…
It’s only natural to obsess over particular matters concerning the affair.
You have so many questions…
Your feelings are all over the place.
Making decisions, even just day to day ones, are no longer simple and automatic.
Your life has become chaotic and unpredictable.
You need to get that sense of order and predictability back into your life once more.
To feel a real sense of power and control over your world again.
You need to reclaim your life after he cheated on you.
Yes, you can survive the affair, and you have several options open to you.
You can, of course, give up on your relationship. Some will see this as the easy option. Either live separated lives and stay married, or take the choice of divorce and make it final.
However, divorce is never easy, nor is it ever final if your relationship has lasted any length of time. Even when there are no children in the marriage, there are countless other things that tie you together, not least of which are friends and family – a lot of these connections become mutual. There is also a financial connection, don’t underestimate it.
It’s important to point out at this stage that many couples manage to overcome the effects of an affair, avoid divorce and heal their relationship in a lasting way.
In any case, whether or not your instincts, friends, colleagues or family all tell you to kick him out, I’m sure you’d rather find a solution that brings you both closer together again, and lets you get your life back with your relationship intact.
Your next option is marriage counseling. If you can get your husband or partner to agree to this, assuming you can afford this option, and you are both comfortable airing your problems in front of another person, then this is indeed a good option to take.
Marriage counselors are highly trained and effective at helping you work through your differences and bringing you closer together.
However, there is a third option.
One that shows you how to reclaim your life again.
It’s “A Step-by-Step System For Saving Your Relationship After It’s Been Shattered By An Affair,”
It addresses all the problems I spoke of above:
But, that’s just a small part, you will in fact discover all you need to rebuild your relationship and restore the lost trust, love, passion and desire…
You’ve probably heard that good communication is the cornerstone of every successful marriage. There’s a reason for that – it’s true.
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