Just Change Her MindAuthor: +Freddie Cook
How to get your wife to come back depends even more on you than it does on your wife. When any marriage gets into difficulties to the extent of a spouse leaving, it can be devastating to both partners.
Neither of them have any confidence in their future, either together or apart. Confusion is typical at this time and thoughts keep going round in circles without getting anywhere.
So, concentrate on what you know instead of the unknown and you’ll be able to see things a little clearer.
You’re ability to get to the bottom of the problems that caused your wife to leave is paramount to being successful in getting her back.
Honesty is going to play a major part in this as you’re going to have to discover and admit to whatever part you played in your breakup. Even if infidelity was involved.
You won’t be able to work on your relationship until your wife comes home, so in the mean time, you should work on yourself and the problems that caused your breakup.
Having a plan is crucial, both for now and when your wife does return. For now, it’s important that you are sincere and truthful, work on changing you, there was something about you that your wife eventually could no longer tolerate.
Find out exactly what it was and take steps to fix it. This isn’t about manipulation or only paying lip service to making changes, it’s about taking stock of the person you are and what areas of your personality and behavior you need to change.
Remember you’re not just making changes to keep your wife happy, you’re making changes that need to be made for you to become a better person and a better husband.
Having given honest consideration to these things before your wife comes home will mean that you don’t just repeat the same hurtful and destructive behaviors that caused her to leave in the first place.
You don’t want to have a relationship that is turbulent where you are constantly fighting about the same things. That type of relationship isn’t good for anyone.
Now that you have honestly accepted that there are some changes you will need to make, it’s time to figure out how to get your wife to come home.
With clearer mind you can now get to work and prepare for your wife’s return. Don’t be a slob. Keep yourself and the house clean. Shower, shave, do the laundry, etc. Your wife should be able to walk back in the front door with nothing to do.
She sure isn’t going to want to come back home if she feels like she is just going to have to be the maid. No woman wants to have to be a mother to her own husband. Most woman want a friend, a partner, and a lover.
Let her see that even though you miss her, you respect her enough to keep up with the housework even when you’re on your own.
Now you’re going to need some way of convincing your wife that you still love her and there is hope for your relationship and that she should return home to allow you both to work on it.
To that end, you should first let her know that you’ve been honest with yourself and realize that there are things in your behavior that you are willing, and able, to change.
There will be no point in being vague, so spell these things out to her so that she’ll know you are a sincere, mature man who wants to be a better man and a better husband and that you are willing to work on those things.
If she has real reason to believe things can be different this time she’ll be more likely to return home and give it a try.
If you’re in the wrong, admit it and apologize. Many men get caught up in the macho idea that apologizing is a sign of weakness. Nothing could be further from the truth.
If you screw up and admit it and apologize, that is actually a sign of confidence, strength, and maturity. Admitting when you are wrong and offering a sincere apology not only lets others know that you are a mature, confidant person, it also shows that you have respect for yourself and for them.
The reality is that people who won’t apologize are actually very weak and insecure. They are too unsure of themselves to be able to admit they were wrong.
When you’re confident enough in yourself to offer a sincere apology it shows that you are a strong, confident individual…and that is sexy to any woman.
I hope these tips have given you some ideas on how to be more successful with, “how to get your wife to come back.” The point is that if you truly want your marriage to work you need to be willing to work on yourself first and then concentrate on your wife and your relationship together.
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