His Love And Desire Has GoneAuthor: +Freddie Cook
The passage of time affects everything, and marriages are no different. It’s quite common for a couple to drift apart without even noticing it happen.
It’s so gradual that it just sneaks up on you.
Life gets in the way and leads you both in different directions.
Of course, that’s not the only reason that leaves you wanting to know how you can rekindle all that lost love and passion you both used to have.
Other things can happen, like infidelity or allowing arguing or fighting to become a habit instead of effective communication.
Whatever the reason, you have come to the point where you think your husband has fallen out of love with you, or maybe has lost his desire for you.
In either case, it’s left you feeling alone and confused and now you are asking yourself, how can I turn it all around and get my husband to love me again?
Many women, just like you, are asking themselves the same questions. Or they have asked themselves these questions and are struggling to find the answers.
While every situation and all circumstances are different, there are some common elements to “lost love” in a relationship.
But before we talk about lost love, first ask yourself, are you sure that your husband doesn’t love you anymore?
Has he told you so?
If he’s behaving strangely or acting different, this does not necessarily mean he is not in love with you anymore, although it most likely means he’s also questioning himself about the matter.
Before you go on trying to win back your husband’s love, make sure that you have lost it in the first place, or your efforts may only backfire.
In many cases, in order to get your husband’s love back, you first need to work on yourself.
Have you been neglecting yourself and putting the needs of your kids and husband first?
That’s very common. Of course, your kids come first, but you also need to dedicate some time for yourself.
This goes both ways of course. Husbands very often get caught up in their own lives, work and interests and it’s not your fault at all. But, sometimes you can help even when it is your husband’s fault.
Encouragement can go a long way in most circumstances.
If you’ve put on some extra pounds, make a plan to eat more healthy meals or get in a little exercise, and take them off.
Take the time to dress in clothes that flatter you and make you feel good about yourself. Go out with the girls every once in a while and let your husband take care of the kids.
Do what you need to do to get your “mojo” back. It’s important that you feel good about yourself.
You may be surprised at how just a little bit of self-awareness will get you in terms of feeling more confident and therefore looking more attractive. As you’re going through your make-over, try to distance yourself from your husband.
Of course if you are living in separate households, this is easier. However, if you are still under the same roof, just go on about your life in a detached manner.
Don’t be mean or cold. Be friendly and positive, but just minimize your contact with your husband.
This newer you (really, it’s the older you) will also spark more interest from your husband. The real you is the person he fell in love with in the first place.
So, if you’ve been asking yourself, “how do I get my husband to love me again”, start by asking yourself, “what can I do for myself… now”?
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