Is Emotional Infidelity Really Cheating?
Emotional infidelity happens when a spouse or partner becomes too attached to someone outside the couple relationship.
There is no physical involvement, sex is normally not an issue.
And this is often the excuse someone committing emotional infidelity uses for continuing the affair. They say “Nothing physical is happening, we’re just good friends.”
The question is, are they right?
Lets have a look and see…
What Are The Problems With Emotional Infidelity?
Emotional infidelity very often, though not always, precedes a full blown affair. But… even when it doesn’t, it is still cheating in it’s own right.
If we look at two aspects of a relationship, the physical and the emotional aspects, then the emotional affair is often seen as the MOST destructive to the relationship.
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Cheating on a purely sexual level can often be forgiven and dealt with easier than a betrayal on the emotional level.
It is seen as fundamentally more personal.
There is a lot more to a relationship than sharing sex only with each other, there are connections on so many other levels, a true loving and caring bond that is shared between each other.
The emotional side is a deep and necessary part of a marriage or relationship that should be as exclusive as the physical side, it’s such a large part of what makes a couple truly united that it’s often taken for granted.
That’s partly why an emotional affair has such a devastating effect on a marriage.
They Feel As Much For This Other Person As They Do For You
Emotional infidelity is when your partner forms those SAME BONDS with another person. As soon as the emotional affair begins, the destruction of YOUR relationship begins.
This is because it is so often accompanied by an emotional withdrawal from the original relationship.
You go from being your partner’s most important friend and lover to being a stranger in your own relationship. This freezing out can be difficult to deal with, and sometimes hard to recognize.
You may feel the problem is with you, and it’s you that is doing something wrong. Your partner may even encourage you to believe this, blaming you for all the negative parts of your relationship.
It can often be difficult to uncover an emotional infidelity. It can be less obvious than cheating on a sexual level. Even when discovered, it can be very difficult to prove it, or even get your partner to admit to it.
One sign can be a sexual chemistry between the two people, flirting and teasing each other. It may seem innocent because there is nothing physical going on, but emotional cheating will cause the person to behave differently.
This is a key point that you need to keep in mind when you suspect an emotional affair.
Everybody has friends; men have their best buddies, women have their girlfriends, and also friends of the opposite sex. But…
How Far Should A Friendship Go?
Flirting can, and often is, harmless. Many people have close friends of the opposite sex, people with whom they may even confide in about much of their lives.
This isn’t necessarily emotional infidelity, but… the thing to look out for is signs of guilt.
However, guilt is not always obvious to spot in others.
The tendency is when your partner is becoming involved with someone else on an emotional level, is they feel compelled to hide it.
No one hides their relationships with just friends from their partner. When they’re hiding something, it means there is something to hide.
But what does it mean if they do the opposite? If they make no attempt at all to hide their emotional closeness?
Well, if this happens. . . be careful.
It’s normally done as a huge bluff, especially if it seems they are going out of their way to flaunt their closeness in front of you. Often accompanied by an equally exaggerated display that NOTHING else is going on.
The two opposites happening together actually condemns them. These two extremes make it almost certain they are having an emotional affair… and at your expense.
So, What’s The Answer?
Emotional cheating is a problem, actually several problems and one of them is — it tends to be one of the early signs of a relationship going bad, perhaps because of the infidelity itself.
Another one is — the next step after emotional cheating is usually physical cheating. If you can recognize and do something about the emotional cheating, you may have an easier time than if you catch it at a later stage.
The two biggest signs are emotional disengagement and secretive behavior. If your partner is pulling away from you, becoming distant or hostile, this is a big sign.
Likewise, if they are acting suspiciously, hiding phone calls and emails, avoiding questions and just generally acting like they have a secret, this can also be a sign.
Ideally you need to catch an emotional affair in its early stages and fix it.
This can be tough to do, but if you suspect emotional infidelity in your relationship, then you need to seek out advice and instruction on how to stop it and fix your relationship because, even if the emotional affair hasn’t been going on for long, it will have damaged your relationship.
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