Category: Rekindle Love
Rekindle the lost love and passion
How Do I Get My Husband To Love Me Again?
His Love And Desire Has GoneAuthor: +Freddie Cook
The passage of time affects everything, and marriages are no different. It’s quite common for a couple to drift apart without even noticing it happen.
It’s so gradual that it just sneaks up on you.
Life gets in the way and leads you both in different directions.
Of course, that’s not the only reason that leaves you wanting to know how you can rekindle all that lost love and passion you both used to have.
Other things can happen, like infidelity or allowing arguing or fighting to become a habit instead of effective communication.
Whatever the reason, you have come to the point where you think your husband has fallen out of love with you, or maybe has lost his desire for you.
In either case, it’s left you feeling alone and confused and now you are asking yourself, how can I turn it all around and get my husband to love me again?
Many women, just like you, are asking themselves the same questions. Or they have asked themselves these questions and are struggling to find the answers.
While every situation and all circumstances are different, there are some common elements to “lost love” in a relationship.
But before we talk about lost love, first ask yourself, are you sure that your husband doesn’t love you anymore?
Has he told you so?
If he’s behaving strangely or acting different, this does not necessarily mean he is not in love with you anymore, although it most likely means he’s also questioning himself about the matter.
Before you go on trying to win back your husband’s love, make sure that you have lost it in the first place, or your efforts may only backfire.
In many cases, in order to get your husband’s love back, you first need to work on yourself.
Have you been neglecting yourself and putting the needs of your kids and husband first?
That’s very common. Of course, your kids come first, but you also need to dedicate some time for yourself.
This goes both ways of course. Husbands very often get caught up in their own lives, work and interests and it’s not your fault at all. But, sometimes you can help even when it is your husband’s fault.
Encouragement can go a long way in most circumstances.
If you’ve put on some extra pounds, make a plan to eat more healthy meals or get in a little exercise, and take them off.
Take the time to dress in clothes that flatter you and make you feel good about yourself. Go out with the girls every once in a while and let your husband take care of the kids.
Do what you need to do to get your “mojo” back. It’s important that you feel good about yourself.
You may be surprised at how just a little bit of self-awareness will get you in terms of feeling more confident and therefore looking more attractive. As you’re going through your make-over, try to distance yourself from your husband.
Of course if you are living in separate households, this is easier. However, if you are still under the same roof, just go on about your life in a detached manner.
Don’t be mean or cold. Be friendly and positive, but just minimize your contact with your husband.
This newer you (really, it’s the older you) will also spark more interest from your husband. The real you is the person he fell in love with in the first place.
So, if you’ve been asking yourself, “how do I get my husband to love me again”, start by asking yourself, “what can I do for myself… now”?
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How to Get Your Husband’s Love Back
Reclaiming Your Husbands LoveAuthor: +Freddie Cook
All relationships go through rough times, and when they do, it’s easy to just let things slip. Unless steps are taken early enough, these troubled times can end up months, or sometimes years, long.
When this happens, love seems to leave the marriage and you start feeling like you’re just existing together instead of living life together. This will no doubt have you wanting to know how to get your husband’s love back, you want him to fall in love with you all over again before your relationship ends up in divorce.
You want to ward off the breakup and get things back to the way they used to be. The thing is, your husband may very well feel the same. Both of you have let problems come between you and they are preventing you from communicating effectively with each other. This is a very common scenario in a lot of relationships and not just marriage. Stubbornness and egos can be real stumbling blocks to reconciliation.
If you feel that you’re marriage has lost all it’s love, you should understand that if your husband is there, he probably does still love you. “Falling out of love” is a term that is often applied to a marriage that’s gone stale, but what it frequently means from the man’s point of view is that he has fallen out of love with the way the marriage is going.
Your husband may have pulled away from you because he is not happy but can offer no more detailed explanation for his feelings. Men have a hard time accurately interpreting, and then communicating, what they are feeling. Even if they can’t put words to it, what they are often feeling is the relationship doesn’t make them feel good about themselves anymore.
When you first started your relationship, you were both putting your best foot forward and putting a lot of time and effort into making the other person feel good about you and about themselves. You both worked on your relationship.
So your relationship became stronger and both you and your husband felt wanted, important, interesting and competent, just to name a few. For men, these feelings are what makes him feel like he is loved and in love.
So, it’s important to understand that when your husband says (or you think) he doesn’t love you anymore, that simply might not be true. It’s very likely that he’s actually mourning the loss of the relationship that made him feel so great about himself and about you.
So, now that you know this. . .what can you do? First, you get it all out. Tell your husband that you are feeling a distance in your marriage and you miss the closeness and intimacy that you both once enjoyed. Ask him if he wants to improve your marriage and rekindle what you once had. This could scare him because he thinks it will take a lot of work but don’t worry about that.
The goal here is to communicate your desire to your husband…
Then you show him that he’ll probably like what you have in mind. Define what you miss in your relationship. If that happens to be more affection, then show more real affection to your husband. If you want more appreciation, let him know you appreciate him first. Sure, you have to take the first steps, but in time, you’ll see that he’ll respond.
It’s not unusual in the beginning that your husband will just look at you funny or totally reject your attempts. This will probably be hard on your ego but don’t give up! You’ll see in time that you’ve found the answer to “How to get your husband’s love back?” Concentrate on each other and try and resolve any problems that come between you.
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Get My Husband To Fall In Love With Me Again – Please!
Has The Love And Desire Dwindled?Author: +Freddie Cook
Love disappearing out of a relationship is one of those age old concerns. It’s always been a difficult part of marriages in particular. That’s mainly because marriages usually last for such long periods of time and gets bombarded by all the rigors that life throws at it.
Emotions, in general, are not static things and love is no different. But, the natural ebb and flow of our feelings is not really what is concerning us here.
There are so many problems that can get in the way of our love for each other that it’s a miracle any marriage ever survives at all. Everything from children to work and money can interfere with our love and normally caring attitude to each other.
Women in particular seem to be able to catch on to the disappearing love, at least they seem to notice it a lot quicker than men. So it ends up that it’s mainly women who seek the help needed to fix things when this happens.
To get an idea of just how many women need help with their relationship and ask the question: “how can I get my husband to fall in love with me again” just check out relationship forums and chat rooms online.
This is a very common problem in many types of long term relationships,not just marriage. Feeling unloved by your spouse can really mess with your head and cause you to struggle to find answers.
Even though it’s easy to want to fix it all by yourself (or take full responsibility for the problems in the first place) you have to be realistic.
You simply can’t do all the work yourself. Your marriage is a partnership and until or unless you are both on the same page it will be virtually impossible to make any significant changes in your relationship.
In many marriages, there is a slow and steady drifting away that goes on. Each partner slowly starts to drift away into their own life and their own concerns. If that is allowed to go on long enough both partners will ‘suddenly’ wake up to find that they are living with a stranger.
This is a very common issue, and it can be overcome.
It may sound like a cliche, since you’ve probably heard it many time before, but it’s true, day to day life can get in the way making it difficult for you and your spouse to really connect the way you used to. When you have kids, jobs, school, extended family, etc. to deal with it leaves precious little time to unwind and reconnect with each other.
To change this direction in your marriage the first thing you have to do is to establish new priorities. Obviously you can’t just ditch your kids, but most people can find more free time in their lives if they really try. Freeing up that time will give you and your hubby more time to reconnect with each other, and that is the first step to getting the love back.
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and she told me she hasn’t been sleeping well lately. When I asked her why she said that she has just taken on too much, she wants to help people so she volunteers to organizations.
That’s great, but it doesn’t have to be done. Carefully analyze your own life to see where you can make cuts so you can free up more time to spend with your husband, and have him do the same.
If things have really gotten bad don’t be afraid to go to a marriage counselor for help. It’s best if you both go but even if your hubby won’t go, go by yourself. A good counselor can pinpoint the issues as well as provide techniques to overcome those issues.
Just being able to spend time together and reconnect with each other can be enough to remind your husband of what a great person you are and how much he loves you. If you can’t manage that, or it’s not enough, then…
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Can I Get My Husband To Love Me Again
Do You Miss Feeling Loved?Author: +Freddie Cook
The intensity of love within any relationship varies from one day to the next and love within a marriage is no different. However, if the love reaches a low point and nothing happens to bring it up again, then it can begin a downward spiral that can ruin the marriage in the long run.
Asking if you can get your husband to love you again is not an uncommon question. Quite apart from the normal ups and downs of feelings between spouses a lot of other issues can bring about the same effect.
Trying to get your husband to love you again is a tough position to be in. It’s unbearably hard to be in love with someone who doesn’t seem to still be in love with you. This situation is even worse when that person is your spouse, the one person who is supposed to love you unconditionally.
It’s just a sad reality that sometimes couples drift apart. Even though it’s sad, it can also be overcome. It’s easier to overcome if the relationship has just gotten stale than if there has been problems like infidelity or some other really serious issue.
If there has been serious problems like cheating and/or other forms of abuse you might want to reevaluate your desire to get your husband to love you again. If there has been abuse then what the two of you shared, wasn’t really love in the first place.
At that point counseling would be in order. If your husband abused you and you want his love again, there are some very serious issues that you have going on that need to be addressed. Find a good therapist, one that you like and trust, and spend as much time as you need to to figure out why you think so little of yourself that you would want to return to an abusive man and an abusive relationship.
Assuming there were no serious issues in your relationship, one of the first things you can do is to find out whether or not your husband really has fallen out of love with you. You may be surprised to find that he actually does still love you but that those feelings have just gotten pushed aside for one reason or another.
Sometimes it’s just a case where both spouses get so stressed out with day to day life that they forget to ‘be in love’ with each other. The little looks, the small caresses tend to go by the wayside when life gets too overwhelming. It doesn’t matter which spouse stops doing if first, eventually you may both be remiss in your affections to your spouse, and each of you may then conclude that the other doesn’t love them anymore.
Your husband may well be wondering how he can get you to love him again! To find out if this is the problem, and to overcome it if it is, the best thing you can do is to free up some time.
I know, many people would say they just don’t have any free time, but in a lot of cases that’s not entirely true. We tend to feel the need to take care of everyone and sometimes we have to teach ourselves to just walk away.
You may find that in order to free up some time you’ll have to let go of some of the commitments you either volunteer for or just can’t say no to, your marriage is worth it.
Once you’ve found a way to free up some time for yourself, ask your husband to do the same. From that point on the two of you can use this time to reconnect with each other. Get to know each other all over again.
Spend time together, without the kids, and just remind each other of the love and fun times you used to share. In most cases it is all still there and these ‘reconnecting times’ will allow it to begin to flow back.
So, yes, in answer to your question: can I get my husband to love me again, the answer is yes…
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